I will devote much attention to a child’s education, but since beginning of school age, it takes practically supremacy over all aspects of the child’s life. For the homemaker it is the most important duty and the most serious challenge.
Every child is smart and easily assimilate new knowledge and skills. The role of the father in this case boils down to one basic issue: the systematic help in preparing for the next day in school. Make sure that your pupil has a notebooks and workbooks all completed, whether books all have prepared. It is important to do this during the same afternoon, because in case of any corrections you can ask your child to do so before it goes to bed or will be too tired. For the first three classes of primary school it is worth helping your child to pack a bag for school and carefully check does your child have all necessary stuff (ex. paint for an art lesson , dress for gym, etc.). With age a student acquires skills how to prepare for the next day in school.
The most important issue in your’s child education is helping him with homework and preparation to tests. In this first case you should advise your child to find an appropriate solution of the homework by studying textbooks and supplementary books. The child has a natural need to search for new information, and this is the best way to develop his/her knowledge. Of course, a parent should not work out the homework for his child. Guidance and searching solutions is much more challenging than simply solving a homework, but in the long term will bring benefits to your child. It develops a skill of independent thinking and unique way how to find solutions. This will pay off during all the exams that the student will have throughout the entire education. In addition, the child wants to show off his/her knowledge to dad what is a very important motivation.
Another important element to support your’s child education is systematically checking his/her preparation to class work and tests. You can do this by giving your child time to prepare, and then just taking a book or notebook and asking some questions concerning the given subject. By doing so we will have a picture of the student’s understanding the material and will also show the issues which still have to be trained. I follow a principle: „Scio me nihil scire” – “I know that I know nothing” and always when I help my children I try to find those areas that are most difficult and prompt solutions. Over the time, children themselves find their weaknesses and try to fill the gaps in their knowledge and skills.
There is a proven solution in which each child is doing a homework on daily basis and prepare for tests during weekends. Of course nobody wants to spend entire weekend for learning. So when we manage to do this on Saturday we will have Sunday off.
Assistance in education is one of the most responsible task of the homemaker. So, one has to be prepared for it carefully. After all, each of us has already learned a similar knowledge, it is enough to simply refresh it. Books of your children will be very helpful. Sometimes I reach also for some additional literature to be prepared for tough questions the child may have.
It is also worth to assist a teacher or a director of the school in preparing and carrying out all kinds of school events, celebrations, school trips or extracurricular activities . The child is very happy when Dad actively participates in class and school life .
Learning is the most important part of education and a token of taking care for the child’s future. However, you should also take care about the development of the child’s talents and interests outside school – sports, music, fine arts these are just a few areas by which your child can be attracted. It will be extra motivation for a child to develop. For a parent it is also some additional burden, but worth the effort.
Playing with the children
It is worth to spend a lot of time playing with children, especially the youngest. At the very beginning of their live, they require actually just fun – I recommend building blocks, puzzles, dolls (for girls) and cottages for them, cars and racetracks (for boys). Over time, children need more sophisticated forms of entertainment .
In primary school it is worth to play football, badminton, ride a bicycle tours. Children also love to have fun on the playground , so the father should learn how to play in the sandbox or on the swing –besides, it is a great fun indeed. It is important to bear in mind the safety of children and follow the schedule of the day.
It is important to be involved in everything what children do. Watching cartoons on TV with them is also a part of the play – I recommend the classics of children’s films, going to the cinema, theater, concert hall. Reading books or cartoons together also gives a great joy to children, and at the same time is has some didactic aspect, which will result in the school years.
Next to the some basic types of play (eg . building blocks ) one should spend more time on creative fun. You can start from a common drawing , even the simplest things like a house or a car. The child will be happy to show his father his drawings and paintings. Older children can be encouraged to mini theater performances using everything that is in your home or vocal performances.
Painting using real paint is also great. Any child’s idea, a development of its artistic imagination is priceless and one should encourage him/her to be creative. However one should also consider the “consequences” of which we would not like to see on the walls.
Therefore, one need to bring the home to the original state after such a creative activity. But this should be also done as a kind of play which should be done together with your child.
Children have a lot of ideas for spending time in a creative way. The role of the father is to realize most of those projects, of course those one which are reasonable and within the framework of the technical possibilities. It is also good idea to use a camera to catch moments. After years is a priceless memento of our work and the joy of children .
Children grow up very fast. So the job of the homemaker takes on a different character. In due time one need to acquire new skills and knowledge to effectively help children and take care for the functioning of the house.
So the duties of the homemaker are changing. Some of them disappear, some new appear. Older children do not need such attention to many aspects of daily activities, but they need more involvement in the school affairs and extracurricular activities .
Responsibilities and the rhythm of everyday life is changing at each stage of work. However, it does not mean that there is less work. The dynamism of these responsibilities makes this work challenging and one can’t fall into a routine.
An additional advantage is the lack of monotony and boredom , because next to the permanent elements of the work, there are new tasks constantly emerging. The homemaker can develop himself together with the children, and the skills, knowledge and experience he gains during the life become priceless.
This favors also in the future return to your professional life, when children do not need our care any longer and begin to live their own lives .
Infant stage :
The newborn and a child under two need the basic care. You need to help your child and look after all matters of hygiene, nutrition, fun and safe exploring the world (high chairs, stairs, edges of furniture etc.). The little one also needs our heat, conversations and almost constant presence.
For an adults many aspects of life are obvious, but the toddler needs to discover them. It is the most difficult stage, because sometimes we do not know to pass the obvious things to your baby, especially when he/she does not fully understand the meaning of words – one need to learn how to do this.
However, it is good to talk to your baby from the very first weeks of his/her life. Even when he/she does not have a clue of your monolog, he/she caches up your emotions and somehow understands your intention – especially when you use fairly simple language. It is worth to spend a lot of time to play with your baby: on the carpet, walking with a stroller . It is also important to engage in the feeding, swaddling your baby, learning the basic activities and discover the world around us – shopping , parks, playgrounds, cinemas, museums , interesting places , beautiful natural places and other .
This stage is probably the most challenging physically (usually both parents are absorbed around the clock, lack of sleep, illness, colic or other unforeseen events), but the joy and satisfaction of your developing child is enormous.
The child can now take care on his/her basic needs on his own. Greater emphasis should be placed on social development and science – baby wants and learns how to draw, discovers the thoughts and ideas of others, begins to see the abstracts . So the role of homemaker evolves. It is good to engage in kindergarten life (not all kids want to go to kindergarten and if the child strongly resist himself against this , then you should really think about a different solution). I suggest one spend more time on the fun, sports, entertainment , trips , reading books, watching cartoons on television together .
The new duties are driving (walking) your child to kindergarten , participation in events and celebrations organized I the kindergarten – this is the most important thing for the child if the father would come to kindergarten presentation or take part in a family picnic .
On the other hand , there is a moment for yourself when, after the morning duties you can take some break. It is a moment for undisturbed shopping , planning trips or simply relax. After picking up child from kindergarten you should take the daily routine back, up to the time when children are asleep. Before bedtime it is worth to read together a fairy-tale, preferably with colorful illustrations . And after a very active day you can sit in front of the TV and fall asleep.
Going to the school
The school is a new challenge for children. As for the homemaker. School changes the nature of his work – there are new responsibilities: preparing your child for school (second breakfast, additional materials for classes ) assisting in homework , developing extracurricular interests, solving problems. At this stage you should also develop yourself. To help your child, you have yourself to refresh their school program. Curricula are changing and it is good to know in advance what knowledge your child is supposed to learn. It is useful to scan textbooks and obligatory readings. The proactive attitude of the parent and learning together have a positive impact your child who likes to go back to the books and to prepare for school. The fine arts: painting or music require a lot of effort.
One should daily check what your child has learnt in the school and how is prepared for next day classes. When you child is in a school , you can improve your education and simply take a break. So the biggest work is when your child returns home, with the above-mentioned routine.
So when your child grows up there are many new issues– so be prepared for the unexpected.